Paradox Blog

NEW WEBSITE!!!!

2008-01-04T17:53:00.000-08:00

www.paradoxchurch.com

Our blog feature and everything else will now be on the main site, everything in one place. So look around, there is a LOT of data, media, and more.

Extreme Home Makeover 08-25-07

2007-08-09T18:39:00.000-07:00

Reminder, our second annual home makeover is August 25th, getting started bright and early.

Read this article: http://www.macombdaily.com/stories/080607/loc_20070806003.shtml

Rodger's contact info is in the article if you need more data.

See you there!!

Paradox Goes Metro!

2007-07-19T07:16:00.000-07:00

Join us right after service on Sunday, July 22, as we take over Metro Beach! This is going to be a fun day that you won't want to miss - our first ever, outdoor baptisms.There will be plenty of hamburgers, hot dogs and fun for everyone. Bring a side dish or snack to share, your own drinks, something to sit on, and $4.00 for parking. Call our office at 586-980-9770 with any questions.

In the event of rain: we will eat the food brought to the church and the baptisms will be moved to after service the following week on July 29.
(But let's all pray for clear skies!)

Current Sunday Series: Miracles

2007-06-17T18:01:00.000-07:00

Please see images above for details. Click to make them larger. Hope to see you there!

BOWL-A-THON FOR CHARITY:Saturday June 23RD

2007-06-12T11:34:00.000-07:00

This is a GREAT charity event! Click on the image below for details, and email rodgersmith@comcast.net if you need any further information. BE THERE!!

I have been distant

2007-06-01T19:48:00.000-07:00

But I will try to log on more and put something up here!

My bad

Upcoming Saturday, and Upcoming Sunday!

2007-03-18T12:52:00.000-07:00

Here is the Flick N' Fam. A free movie night for everyone! Bring the whole family! Not only is the movie free, but the concessions are cheap. Click the individual images for details on the event. This will be a blast! See you on the 24th (next saturday!)

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This will be a service to remember. Perhaps you are someone who always goes to a church service on Christmas and Easter. Christmas is over, so that leaves Sunday April 8th for you, don't miss it, and arrive early for a good seat, and hot coffee. Click the individual images below for details, this one is not to be missed!!

KABOOOM! Paradox baby boom, again!

2007-03-14T07:48:00.000-07:00

Chloe Ann and Sophia Marie Paryaski

Collin John Scicluna

Colin Justis Smith

Feedback

2007-02-05T07:34:00.000-08:00

Did you go to the whirly ball event this past Saturday night? If you did, we'd love to hear your feedback on the event! Did you have fun? Did you meet anyone new? Were you sore the next day? LOL

Did you participate in the service projects yesterday at church? If so, we'd love to hear how that went! Did you go alone or with your small group? Did you decide to group up with some people you didn't know? Did you interact with the people you were serving? How about where you picked up your items at? What reactions did you receive? Please, share your thoughts!

The month of Love

2007-01-24T13:52:00.000-08:00

With Valentines day just around the corner I thought this was an interesting post when I came across it on Alex McManus's blog.

I was going to copy / paste but there are other articles on his blog that I thought you might find interesting too.

The Culture Code - Seduction, Sex and Love in America

So what do you think?

It's a girl! It's a girl!

2007-01-03T20:44:00.000-08:00

Congratulations to the McGlassion clan! The girls made their grand entrance yesterday (Jan. 2, 2007) at 12:27 and 12:28 am. Joslyn Brooke was 4 lbs., 13 oz., and 17 1/4" long. Corinne Nicole was 4 lbs., 9 oz., and 17 3/4" long. They were informed that Joslyn has pneumonia in both lungs, so they're giving her antibiotics to help. Outside of that, both girls are doing well! Nicole had a c-section & is doing pretty good. Craig's still just soaking it all in! Congrats, you guys! We're praying for you all, celebrating with you, and we love you!
(And I can't wait to see those girls!)

P.S. In the above pics, Nicole's holding Joslyn
and Craig's holding Corinne!

2006-12-14T10:53:00.000-08:00

Blog by Alex McManus

Mel Gibson’s new movie, Apocalypto, though released in December, is not exactly your holiday fare.

While not seasonally appropriate, Apocalypto does provide some fodder in our search for a spiritual anthropology. We can avoid the criticisms of whether or not Mel is trying to demonstrate the horrific ugliness of non-christian cultures in comparison to the Roman Catholicism he espouses. Of course he is. But he also shows within the film both the potential ugliness and pristine humanity of non-christian cultures as compared to each other. Gibson’s film can lead to a fruitful discussion as to whether or not there is within human cultures –even Christian ones — a “heart of darkness”.

The peoples who practiced human sacrifice, or cannabalism in the Americas or in Europe, were after all people like us. What changed us? Or, have we really changed? After all, power, fear, superstition and greed still drive the human machine.

In relative terms, we might also discuss the merits of the expansion of western culture. Would people really have been better off in net terms without the gains in science and technology, law and culture that the western expansion provided? This is a movie sure to inspire conversation along the ideological chasm between left and right in western culture. And that’s a good thing because clarity is sometimes more important than agreement. What do you think?

Batteries Not Included

2006-12-05T09:37:00.000-08:00

Each Sunday through the month of December we will be looking at the ways that the power of Jesus Christ within us empowers the many dimensions of our lives. As the apostle Paul says in Romans 1, the Gospel is not just mere belief it is powerful and when the person of Jesus lives within us so to does that power. The reason for the name of the series "batteries not included" is because Paul also make it clear that the full expression and experience of that power is only able when, by faith we have put out trust in Jesus (John 1:10-13).

Life is a lot like toys & batteries. A toy has all the parts to do what its been made to do. Without the batteries it still looks the same. The colors, the design, the purpose, are all there even without the batteries but, there is no power source.

We have been created in the image of God & as such all the parts are there to do and be what we have been created for. Our design and purpose are there but the Bible teaches that without Jesus we lack the power source to live as intended; to our fullest potential.

As we begin this next month we would love to hear the ways that the power of God is at work in your life. We would especially love to hear from you if you have recently made the decision to follow Jesus and are learning to live from His power and strength and lay down your own. Please share too how you may be struggling with that decision and just what to do with Jesus. Feel free to post a comment and share your story with us by clicking on "comments".

WIN!!

2006-12-02T06:06:00.000-08:00

Connor Everett Kenyon was born yesterday, Nov 30th at 3:54 pm. 7 pounds 1 ounce, 20.5 inches long.

Mom and baby are doing fine!

Long time waiting... God is Good!

New service time!

2006-11-14T07:54:00.000-08:00

Apparently very few people like getting up at the crack of dawn on Sunday mornings... who would've figured? :)

NEW SERVICE TIME is 10:00am, sharp.

See you Sunday at 10!

Sunday at Paradox

2006-10-24T13:48:00.000-07:00

Five weeks down, three hundred years to go!

Well, I think Sunday's are going great. We've had a lot of really good response to what's been being done & taught on Sunday over the last month. As the Sunday planning team continues to plan for what we will be doing on Sunday mornings we would love to hear your thoughts.

One of the hardest things with a new church is knowing your audience; because we're all just getting to know each other. The Sunday planning team is currently in the process of planning out the next several months of topics, series & messages and would love to hear your thoughts.

Please post a comment with any ideas that you have on what issues, topics or books of the bible you would love to hear taught about on a Sunday morning. Your ideas may be for an individual Sunday or may be in the form of a series with several parts that would extend multiple Sundays.

This post will be left up for two weeks (until 11/8) so that we can hear from as many of you as possible. So, please take some time over the next few weeks to tell us your thoughts & ideas. And if you would like to talk to someone about getting involved in the Sunday planning team please indicate that in your comments & someone will get back with you.

Looking forward to hearing your ideas,
Craig

Justice & Compassion

2006-10-17T11:02:00.000-07:00

I had an informative conversation with Drew Hage of Genesis Church last week. We talked about outreach strategies and compassion ministries. He mentioned that the members of Genesis Church definitely have an activist bent. He mentioned that a hunger for justice is imperative for God’s church. What social issues or justice issues are you most concerned about? What are issues in Macomb County that you think we need to address?

At the OMNi team we've discussed some of these ideas, but I would like to hear ideas from the rest of Paradox.

Limbo anyone?

2006-10-13T09:38:00.000-07:00

I read an interesting article online a few days back called Babies Born Without Baptism Go to Limbo?. Let me start by pointing out the obvious error in the title... they mean it's about babies that die without baptism, not born without it! (How can you baptize a child in the womb?!?) Anyway, the article talks about how Vatican theologians are rethinking their teaching about what happens to babies when they die. The practice thusfar has been that if the child is not baptized before death, then they will not go to Heaven, but limbo - "an eternal state of perfect natural happiness." This is because many Catholics believe that we're all born into original sin and therefore excluded from Heaven (without baptism).

I don't remember the Bible specifically addressing the issue of what happens to infants when they die, but aside from my own feelings, one passage comes to mind. Remember when David committed adultery with Bathsheba and she got pregnant? God sent a prophet to tell David that because of his sin, he would take the baby (in death). David obviously went through morning & grieving & praying while the child was sick, but when the baby passed away, David became calm. People questioned his response, and David replied with this "While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, 'Who knows? The Lord may be gracious to me and let the child live.' But now that he is dead, why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me." (II Sam. 12:22-23, NIV) To me this shows that David, while still upset, had a peace and sense of calm about his child. Who knows? Maybe he knew in his heart that he'd see his child once again in Heaven.

One last thing... here's the results (after my vote) of a poll AOL had on this:

Where do you think unbaptized babies go when they die?
Heaven 86%
Other 9%
Limbo 5%
Total Votes: 74,755

Any thoughts?

Paradox Has Launched

2006-09-28T20:58:00.000-07:00

Well the day came & went much like any other, no fireworks no bells in the sky, the sun didn't stand still & the moon hung in the sky that night; 24 hours and the day was gone, just like any other. But something magical happened that will forever set the course of this church & be the beginning of a journey for many of us that will shape a part of who we are.

On Sunday 372 people between both services sat & heard of the power, the plan & the man...Jesus. As I sat waiting to go on stage at the second service I sat with a few of the people that have been around from day one (a year & a half ago). It was difficult not to get teary eyed as we remembered the basement where 25-20 of us gathered just a year ago with a dream & a belief that if we stepped out in faith that God would use Paradox to be a place of hope & healing.

For some time now we have planned & prayed for faceless & nameless people that after Sunday now have names & faces & stories; God is at work. In hindsight, launch day is like a wedding; anyone can have a wedding but not everyone has a strong & healthy marriage. We had a great "wedding day" but now we must build a strong & healthy marriage; may God grant us strength, wisdom, patience & endurance. May He continue to honor the dream that began this journey & draw back His scattered people. If you were there we'd love to hear what you thought, so feel free to post a comment.

Paradox Postcard

2006-09-09T15:20:00.000-07:00

Here are three of our postcards that were sent out to Macomb County a few days ago. Hopefully you got one. What do you think of these?

The back of the 1st postcard:

"Ever wonder about the priorities of some churches? We do. Waste - that word, more than any other, defines many of the activities in the American church. And while it is often wasted money, that is not the only thing that is wasted. Many churches waste time and still others waste opportunities. From up front there is big talk about the urgency of making a difference in this world but in practice the most urgent item on the agenda is wall papering the women's bathroom or funding the pastor's vacation. At times people, even people are wasted. They sit in pews and folding chairs for years and never feel like they are needed or that their skills and ideas are valued. Have you ever felt like even going to church is just a waste? We have too.
Paradox is not a perfect church – but that's not saying a lot. In truth, Paradox isn't even a great church. What we are is a new church (and there are several out there) that is working hard to live the way Jesus lived. Our hope is that we will be a home for a few people that never "got" how to be a part of a church. And by the way…we DO sponsor kids in Africa and donate our time and money to people in our neighborhood...just in case you were worried that we were actually heartless. :)"

The back of the second postcard:

…or a chance to really do something great. You can switch your major. You can switch your cell phone carrier. In fact almost everything in life comes built in with a backup plan or a way out, but once those little eyes look up to you and do what you do, you know that your life will never be the same again. It's pretty cool that they mimic you; that is, until they swear in front of grandma.
Unlike any job we've ever had, parenting is the most difficult and most rewarding. It can be thrilling and scary at the same time. The world is pretty crazy these days and we spend a lot of time thinking about how we can teach our kids what they will need in order to, "make it" out there. Whether a parent, an uncle, an aunt, a grandparent; no one has all the answers so no one should walk alone. At Paradox Church we are applying the words of Jesus, learning as we go, and are encouraging one another along the way. If all that doesn't work – we plan to start a fund to pay for their counseling after they turn eighteen.

The back of the 3rd postcard:

Jesus never had a parking space with his name on it. He never had a key to the corporate washroom. Jesus was a carpenter – a man's man. If you just believe the stereotype, you might think that he was born in a barn, was visited by rich uncles, and then went around walking on water until he was about thirty and started doing all of those miracles. Nope. Jesus had a J.O.B. - you know, "Just Over Broke." He swung a hammer and straightened his own nails. In fact he probably whacked Himself in the thumb a time or two.

The Bible thinks pretty highly of straight-forward people who work hard with their hands. So, why is it that that some people will look at you funny if you have a little dirt underneath your fingernails or wear jeans (we all happen to like jeans) when you go to church? Paradox Church appreciates a good day's work, a speaker that gives practical advice, and genuinely helping people in need. The way we see it, nothing says you really care like hearing about a need and loading up a truck.

Learning from kids

2006-09-06T09:11:00.000-07:00

Today was Kirsten's first day of Kindergarten. We checked in, then went outside to wait, per instructions. It was interesting to see how many children were just patiently standing in line outside with their parents... nervous, shy, clinging to the stability standing next to them and clutching their hand. A few feet away, in clear view, was the playground. My daughter was the first one to run out to play on it. I was actually surprised to see only one other girl join her... there must have been a lot of first-time schoolers (this is Kirsten's 4th year!). Anyway, I just watched. I watched this other girl run over to the swings and start swinging. Then I watched my daughter. She looked at the girl for a moment, then quickly ran to her and said, "Wanna play with me?" I love it! She even asked the girls' name and told her hers!

No fear of rejection. No contemplation of the "right" words to say. No hesitation. Kirsten wanted to connect with someone else. She wanted companionship out on that playground.

God created us as social beings. He didn't intend for us to be alone, focused only on ourselves, but to long for and actively engage in relationships with one another. Numerous times in Scripture God tells us to "love your neighbor as yourself" (Lev. 19:18, Mt.22:39, etc.). Sometimes life happens and relationships fail. We may want to not risk putting ourselves out there again, and instead withdraw from others. But deep down we know how much we need relationships. We need to talk, encourage, hold accountable, pray for and with, forgive, and LOVE one another! We were created like that! Heb. 10:25 - "Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another..." Gal. 5:13 - "...serve one another in love." Eph. 4:32 - "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Heb. 10:24 - "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds." I John 3:18 - "...let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth." We NEED each other. We were wired like that! Even children instinctively know that!

Let me finish with one last photo from this morning. After entering the classroom for the first time, the kids were able to color a picture of a bumble bee while settling in. Kirsten was so focused on the other kids (future friends), that she was coloring without looking! Priceless!

Detroit's Graveyard

2006-09-01T12:05:00.000-07:00

I got lost in an old graveyard the other day. I was taking pictures of statues and gravestones at the Elmwood Cemetery in Detroit. It wasn’t terrifying, it wasn’t a reminder of my mortality, and it wasn’t depressing either.

It was impressive. The history of our city impresses me. I was impressed by the people who made some contribution to their world: civil war soldiers, doctors, industrialists who provided jobs, and city leaders. I was impressed by the tradition and roots of our city- people who lived and died in the late 1700’s.

I would like to be a part of the legacy of Detroit- not the burned down buildings, the crime, and the disparaging poverty and addiction; but the builders, the innovators, and the contributors.

There is a connection between the spiritual condition and the physical landscape of Detroit. It seems that many people in Detroit are broken, addicted, and hopeless. I had an interesting conversation with a plant supervisor for Ford this morning. We both agreed that the Michigan economy is in trouble, especially if Ford doesn’t turn things around. I like to focus on how to solve a problem, and I’ve been thinking about this one. I heard an interesting quote about changing the human condition, which leads to a changed world. “The world tries to change a man by taking him out of the slums. Jesus Christ takes the slum out of a man, and then he changes his environment.” Perhaps Paradox Church can be involved with this process.

Verses on your mind...

2006-09-01T11:48:00.000-07:00

Do you have a favorite verse? What about one that God's been laying on your heart lately? I have a few favorites, but the one that keeps popping in my head lately is Jeremiah 29:11... "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." God has used that verse many times to remind me that He does have good things planned for me! He has a future planned for me! Being on this journey with Paradox, and with launch being right around the corner, I'm encouraged to know that He has great things in store for us... He tells us so! We just have to trust in that promise that He is taking care of us and WANTS us to prosper... He really, really wants that for us! So... do you have any verses that might encourage us? Or even just another verse that means something special to you... please share!

So this couple is vacationing in the Holy Land...

2006-08-25T07:34:00.000-07:00

It was a neat place to vacation, but they didn't care for each other's company very much. Soon after arriving, the man's wife became very ill. It was a very progressive illness, and she died within a few days. The hospital connected him with a local mortician to prepare for funeral and burrial. But the man wanted to bury her back in the States where they lived. The Moritican told him that it would only cost $150 to bury his wife there, but it would cost $5000 to have her shipped back to the U.S. So he went back in forth in his mind trying to figure everything out. When asked what he was going to do, the man said it would be challenging to come up with the money, but he would spend the $5000. Out of curiousity, the morician asked why he would not save the money and have her buried there; to which the man replied: A long time ago someone was burried here, and three days later he was back. I just can't take that kind of chance.

30 Day Countdown

2006-08-23T08:59:00.000-07:00

I can not believe the launch of Paradox is only a month away. It’s funny, but even though we’ve been planning for this day the “in a year and a half we’ll be launching” phrase still runs through my head.
A friend asked me the other day, “so, are you guys all ready”? Are we ready! Are you kidding! Is a husband and wife ever READY to have kids? I feel about as ready with Paradox as I do with the twins on the way (surprise, if you hadn’t heard). I feel nervous, excited, scared, elated, I dream about it every night, think about it all day long and I couldn’t imagine doing anything else, ever. This has been such an exciting & challenging time already that I can’t wait to see what God continues to do once we “open the doors”.
It’s like when the disciples stood there as Jesus was doing His last “check this out trick” as he floated up to heaven in a cloud. They were probably scared, excited, and antsy & thinking, “Ok, this is what we’ve trained for”. They didn’t have a clue; as evidenced by the next scene of them all huddled up hiding in a house together afraid of big bad Rome.
The next few years cost those guys everything, everything. But they turned this world upside down for Jesus. They must have really believed His words about His forcefully advancing kingdom. We believe those words too. We’re on the hill, cloud going up, scared & excited and life is never going to be the same again!
Join with us as we fast every Wednesday between now & launch. You are a part of this dream as you battle with us in prayer.

in omnibus glorificetur Deus "in everything, may God be glorified"

Do you watch the morning news?

2006-08-21T08:32:00.000-07:00

I never really have, too boring, always bad news.

But I discovered the Daily Buzz, do you watch it?

www.dailybuzz.tv

It is on channel 50 every morning, check it out!

Bulletin Bloopers

2006-08-18T20:15:00.000-07:00

I couldn't think of anything pressing on my heart to write about today. Actually, let me rephrase that... the only thing I feel God is prompting me to share today is some laughter! I think we all need to just step back and laugh sometimes, force ourselves to smile even. Our lives get so busy and pull us in so many directions that if it wasn't for having a 6 yr. old at home to keep me giggling, I think I'd sometimes forget to! I know many of you might have seen these before, but read 'em over... you may find a few new ones in here! I think these can bring extra tears of laughter to those like me who've come from more of a Baptist background. Well, with the wonders of technology and the little spell-check button we all know and love dearly, hopefully we won't see errors like these in our programs at Paradox! Then again, I'm sure some will slip through the cracks... intentionally!

Bertha Belch, a missionary from Africa, will be speaking tonight at Calvary Methodist. Come hear Bertha Belch all the way from Africa.

The Fasting & Prayer Conference includes meals.

The sermon this morning: "Jesus Walks on the Water."
The sermon tonight: "Searching for Jesus."

Our youth basketball team is back in action Wednesday at 8 PM in the recreation hall. Come out and watch us kill Christ the King.

Ladies, don't forget the rummage sale. It's a chance to get rid of those things not worth keeping around the house. Don't forget your husbands.

The peacemaking meeting scheduled for today has been canceled due to a conflict.

For those of you who have children and don't know it, we have a nursery downstairs.

The church will host an evening of fine dining, super entertainment and gracious hostility.

Potluck supper Sunday at 5:00 PM - prayer and medication to follow.

The ladies of the Church have cast off clothing of every kind. They may be seen in the basement on Friday afternoon.

This evening at 7 PM there will be a hymn singing in the park across from the church. Bring a blanket and come prepared to sin.

Ladies Bible Study will be held Thursday morning at 10 AM. All ladies are invited to lunch in the Fellowship Hall after the B. S. is done.

Low Self Esteem Support Group will meet Thursday at 7 PM. Please use the back door.

The eighth-graders will be presenting Shakespeare's Hamlet in the Church basement Friday at 7 PM. The congregation is invited to attend this tragedy.

The Associate Minister unveiled the church's new tithing campaign slogan last Sunday: "I Upped My Pledge - Up Yours!"

The Rector will preach his farewell message after which the choir will sing: "Break Forth Into Joy."

Irving Benson and Jessie Carter were married on October 24 in the church. So ends a friendship that began in their school days.

A bean supper will be held on Tuesday evening in the church hall. Music will follow.

At the evening service tonight, the sermon topic will be "What Is Hell?" Come early and listen to our choir practice.

Weight Watchers will meet at 7 PM at the First Presbyterian Church. Please use large double door at the side entrance.

Eight new choir robes are currently needed due to the addition of several new members and to the deterioration of some older ones.

Scouts are saving aluminum cans, bottles and other items to be recycled. Proceeds will be used to cripple children.

Remember in prayer the many who are sick of our community. Smile at someone who is hard to love. Say "Hell" to someone who doesn't care much about you.

From the Paradox August Retreat: God's purposes

2006-08-15T14:07:00.000-07:00

This is Mary Toomey's written response to an excerpt from My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers, entry for August 5th. Craig asked us to read this excerpt at the Paradox retreat a few weekends ago.

"It shouldn't matter if I know what God is doing in my life. It shouldn't matter if my path has a foreseeable purpose. The only thing that matters is that I am walking, running (perhaps hiding?) along the path God deems necessary to put me on. The thing I need to concern myself with is locating God as I walk. Not His purpose, not His end game for me, but the here and now that I pass along the way to whatever finish line, hill tops, and valleys God chooses to present me with. Asking God why seems a conditional faith. It doesn't matter why. It doesn't matter why my childhood was what it was. It doesn't matter why Kenny died the way he did. it doesn't matter why my heart is the way it is. What matters is that God gave me these things, not so that I would question Him, but so that I could more easily find him. It would be too difficult to see Him if I did not need Him as I do. God created me very much with a reckless spirit of independence. Of course there must be situations in my life where He reminds me that I desperately need Him. He gave me the great power that I must constantly give back to him. Yet again, here I go looking for logic. Here I sit writing out God's purpose for me on His path. The truth is, I long for direction and explanation. I want someone else to drive, but the relinquishing of even a small amount of control forces that annoying question out of me: 'So where are we going?'. What really matters is that God is driving, and I'm sitting next to Him. Better if I were blind, so I couldn't see the distractions ahead and ask where we're going. Perhaps then I wouldn't be so blind to the fact that God doesn't care for that question, and when he deems it necessary that I know our direction, He tells me before I can even think to ask. Why do I feel I need to demonstrate how little I trust Him? Why am I so eager to display my ignorance? I wish he didn't have to break my legs to keep me from running away. And when I'm scraping my elbows as I crawl away to hide from Him, no one is more ashamed than me."-- Mary Toomey

Freedom

2006-08-11T08:52:00.000-07:00

I won't deny it. I've long been a fan of Mel Gibson, even had an understanding with Matt that if Mel ever finally came knocking on my door... well... Matt would understand! We have things in common: he has 7 kids, I'm the youngest of 7; he was born on January 3, 1956 which is the same day my sister Evelyn was born. Hmmm... I think that's all I was going on for a while there... not really that much, I suppose! Anyway, I've been a big fan of his work in film. I love that every character he plays has a bit of that Mel insanity burning in their eyes, and often spilling out in speech or gesture. I've seen that look in his own eyes during interviews. He has a nervous energy about him, which I'm sure he can channel in positive ways.

As long as you've been connected to reality in some way, you've heard about Mr. Gibson's recent press. He was out one evening, succumbed to his youthful ways of alcohol consumption, drove his car while intoxicated, was pulled over by officers, and was recorded spewing profanities and anti-Semitic remarks from his mouth. I've followed many articles online that have talked about this incident, including some on AOL News and TMZ.com (and here).

Mel was arrested on DUI charges, and I don't dispute that one bit. His blood alcohol level was elevated and an open liquor container was found in his vehicle. The subject of all the debate is the remarks he made about the Jewish people, that they're "responsible for all the wars in the world." I think no argument is being made over him saying stupid things while drunk. That's an obvious point. The debate is whether Mel is anti-Semitic or not. Some say he wouldn't have said those things if he didn't truly believe them in his heart. Some say he was just rambling stupidities while intoxicated and that's not who Mel really is. I don't personally know him, so I can't give any valid opinion on if I think he meant it or not. What I do know are some things I've learned about his father, Hutton Gibson, and his views on the Jews. He has not been a quiet man about his thoughts and opinions, and is even noted as being a denier of the Holocaust. One site quotes him saying, "I don't know what the Jewish agenda is except that it's all about control. They're after one world religion and one world government." I can only imagine how it must be as an adult to try to separate your views and feelings from that of what your father has told you your entire life. Maybe what Mel said was just those mantras coming from his youth, or maybe he honestly believes some of it. I'll never truly know. I can say that I hope he gets the proper counseling that he's seeking, and that he can come to terms with himself for himself, not for the world.

I'll finish with this last point. Tuesday I was listening to a bit of Bob Dutko on 103.5 FM, and he was talking about the "Mel Gibson" story. His twist on it caught my attention. A drunk celebrity makes a horrible statement about Jewish people and there's a ton of publicity, with people questioning his character and putting his reputation (and some say his career) on the line. Yet there's been many occasions where Christians (using the term loosely, of course) have been the doormat and no one is held accountable for stepping on them. Take a look at this painting in which the artist, Chris Ofili, threw elephant dung on his painting of Mary (he calls it "The Holy Virgin Mary"). Or how about this "art" by photographer Andres Serrano. It's a jar of the artist's urine with a small crucifix submerged in it. This won an award. This one seemed to stir up a bit more controversy than the elephant poo story did, but I still hadn't heard of it until Bob Dutko mentioned it. Many consider these as blasphemy, but they're usually attributed to freedom of speech (or "art"). It just seems that out of all religions known to man, they're all considered sacred and off-limits to persecution in any manner... except those that follow Jesus Christ. Do you have any personal experiences with this? What do you think?

The COST of Paradox!?

2006-08-09T09:14:00.000-07:00

When we first began Paradox I remember thinking, "we're doing it the easy way by not moving across the country". I watched Dave Nelson and K2 The Church as they moved from Troy MI to Salt Lake City Utah and thought that was the truest test of sacrifice to plant a church and the type of plant that would cost the most.

Well, two weeks ago my nephew; Landon Hood died on a Thursday afternoon just before our last preview service. There is no place in our minds & hearts that makes sense of death, especially when it's a healthy baby. The whole experience from hospital to funeral was horrible. I saw and felt pain that I do not know how to describe. The most difficult moment for me was when my brother-in-law asked me to help carry the casket. When you carry a two foot long casket to it's grave, your perspective will begin to change on a lot of things. For me that change has been in the form of becoming more focused on what & who is really important to give my life to AND what is slowly & subtly wasting my time; my life.

As I have been examining my life to see if I am really living for the what truly matters I have found many things and much energy that is wasted; daily. I want on the day that they lay me in my grave to know that I have used every talent, moment & strength towards the only thing that really matters and lasts; Jesus, and people; people knowing the loving Jesus.

It's now that I realize that planting a church across the country isn't harder; it's just a different cost. The cost for me is not that I have to sell my house, leave my friends & family and move to an unfamiliar people & place but, that I must examine my already full, busy and "working" life and figure out what must go, what must stop, what must begin to get less or none of my time and energy anymore. The difficulty is that these time takers will still be right there (not across the country) and the decision to say no to them will probably be an ongoing process.

Here's the crazy thing; cost of anything, by nature, isn't easy but, I don't feel like following Jesus has ever really COST me anything; I want to sacrifice for my king. Think that sounds crazy? Read II Corinthians; that's a large part of Paul's message in that book ; "I will boast in what makes me weak". I love that my King is asking me to make difficlut decesions to make His kingdom priorities my Life's priorities; the cost is part of the joy.

Write or Shoot!

2006-08-08T19:36:00.000-07:00

We're moving forward now with the static site. I'll be working on creating the actual pages in the next few weeks, and I would like other people to contribute writing and photography to the site. On the wiki I've created two assignment sheets with detailed requirements for each piece of writing and photography, and directions for submission.

How long are hotdogs good after you buy them????

2006-08-08T19:28:00.000-07:00

When purchasing a perishable item, it is always important to check the expiration date. I was very encouraged when I purchased a pack o' dogs. These babies will last for (begin echoey dr. eil voice)... ONE THOURSAND YEARS!!!

Think about the potential here. You can begin a family tradition of passing off these hotdogs from generation to generation. And if society continues to degredate at current speeds, then it is likely that your acencestors could be roastin dogs with JC when he returns! Not bad eh? :)

Swimming Lessons

2006-07-31T13:42:00.000-07:00

A second grade girl came to the pool last week to swim. Her mother brought the little girl into the 3 ft deep water. The girl struggled to swim, grabbing the water to pull herself up. The more she fought the more tired she got and the less successful she was. Her mother kept telling her to relax and hold her breathe, that she’d be ok. After an hour of listening to mom, and swimming like Nemo, the girl could float and swim a little.

We’ve all been in that situation before, some place new or trying something new. We rely on what we know to get by, and we usually freak out about it. The little girl knew when you fall, you grab something to get up. But that doesn’t work in the water, and when it didn’t work she tried harder.

At Paradox, many of us are trying something new, and it’s frightening. The things we thought worked haven’t in many cases. I’m working with the outreach team and trying to lead it. This position is new to me and very intimidating. Things I’ve tried on this team with coaching or teaching just don’t apply here. But, I’ve learned to relax and listen to God’s guidance. Things have been much better since then. I’m sure many of us at Paradox or in a new job or relationship have had the same experience. Please comment on what God has taught you through that new experience.

A look into the past

2006-07-26T11:38:00.000-07:00

Back when he was big enough to EAT you like a taco this guy was playing football for Wayne State and lifting more than I will ever weigh. A shout out to our very own Dennis Paryaski. A husband, a father of four, a detective and a seminary student. We're thankful that God has brought you and your family to Paradox; we're better for having you a part of this community and this dream.

2006-07-24T21:32:00.000-07:00

Daniel 9:18b

"We do not make requests of you because we are righteous, but because of your
great mercy."

Ya know how we keep saying that at Paradox, 'no perfect people are allowed'? This scripture fits along with that mindset. When we approach God, we do not do so with arrogance, expecting his answer to our prayers because of how awesome we are, and because of how great we live our lives. Instead, we pray to him just because of how awesome he is, and how good he is to us. Surely the Lord wants us to live good lives, and we know that he looks fondly upon our obedience. But we don't use our "good deeds" as leverage to get what we want. Yeah God... I DID walk old lady so and so across the street, therefore I am asking for that Jeep I want. PSSH! Yeah right! God is not impressed by anything we do. We are so sinful that we probably don't deserve any of his goodness towards us.

Have you ever sinned and then later hesitated to pray? I know that at times when I have disobeyed God, I felt too distant to even talk to him about anything, much less ask him for good stuff after being a predictable sinner. But the thing is.. he has never granted my requests just because I was a good boy. Our earthly parent may have rewarded us with gifts or something because of our obedience, but it seems that God does not need our petty deeds to answer our prayers. I am having difficulty balancing this thought with the idea that God answers the prayers of the righteous. I guess my conclusion is that whether we are doing right or we are doing wrong, God's goodness is based on his grace and mercy towards us, because we are all sinners. Thoughts??

More love to Janet!

2006-07-23T16:54:00.000-07:00

Sorry... for some reason I couldn't figure how to get my photo in the comment section, so I figured I'd just continue the shout-out to Janet here!

This was a few weeks ago... we arrive for church early & Kirsten was eager for someone to play with. She had asked Janet to color with her... and Janet just got down there & colored away! I loved it! Talk about making my heart smile big!!! She's an amazing woman with an amazing heart! We love her bunches already!!! - Ruth

Shout Out To Janet Herrick!

2006-07-20T01:37:00.000-07:00

I wanted to give a shout out to Janet for her incredible service in the Journey Ministry. She always reads the lesson ahead of time and adds creative elements to keep the kids interested and excited about the lesson. She arrives early and greets each child enthusiastically! She goes above and beyond the call of duty and is making a huge impact on the current and future generation of Paradox!

Has the Ark been found?

2006-07-14T19:03:00.000-07:00

There has been a few articles out recently about the possible discovery of Noah's Ark. A team of archaeologists were in a mountain range in Iraq in June, and believe they located the remains of the vessel.
(Click here and here to read more.)

It's interesting to think about this. Do you feel that this is significant at all? If, in fact, scientists find some way to prove & agree that this is actually the remains of the Ark from the Bible, what impact would or could this have? I took a little survey that AOL had, which asked what people think of the story itself. With my vote, 69% of people who participated said they believe it's fact and 31% said it's fiction (there were 524,727 people who voted as of the time I did). Among my online perusing, I found this article by Robert Todd Carroll who writes "The Skeptic's Dictionary." He addresses the entire believability of the Ark in general... the manpower it would've taken to build, the ability to gather ALL species together, the food required to feed everyone, the likelihood of such a small crew attending to all those animals. The point he begins and ends with is the thought that our beloved God and Creator would actually destroy us, His children, in such a manner.

I understand his skepticism. He brings up some valid questions, of which I'm completely satisfied in speculating about and never really knowing the answers while I'm here. But to question my Father's love? His decision? This really doesn't make me do it even in the slightest bit.

What are your thoughts?

Don't get bit by a Mastodon

2006-07-12T16:47:00.000-07:00

Anyone else intrigued by dinosaur bones? They found a Mastodon skeleton in Oakland County off of Adams Rd and M-59. The dead beast stood ten feet tall, and weighed about 10,000 pounds! One of its molars is about the size of your head! So this is a friendly reminder... if you are stooping around the U.P. or something in remote areas and one of these things still happens to be alive... don't get too close, it will crush you like Mary crushes grapes. One of its vertebre is as wide as your whole body, thats stinkin HUGE!

It was found near a local body of water that was being dug up for new construction. I wonder what they will find next? I don't know, but to me, if a supposed 12,000 year old animal was inside the first layer of soil, it makes me wonder if it really died like 1000 years ago instead. Watch the scientists carbon date it to 9.99^99999999999 Quazillion years old.

Either way, I love this stuff! On my last visit to Texas, I went to the San Somethingerother Zoo, and they had rhinosauruses, which ruled! They are the same huge dinosaur look, and man are they in charge! That has to be my favorite animal by far. Anyone else love dino bones? What is your favorite animal at the zoo?

2006-07-12T08:51:00.000-07:00

In his daily devotional, "My utmost for His highest" Oswald Chambers often has some really good thoughts; like today. So, I thought that I'd share his challenge with you.

Reconciliation means the restoring of the relationship between the entire human race and God, putting it back to what God designed it to be. This is what Jesus Christ did in redemption. The church ceases to be spiritual when it becomes self-seeking, only interested in the development of its own organization. The reconciliation of the human race according to His plan means realizing Him not only in our lives individually, but also in our lives collectively. Jesus Christ sent apostles and teachers for this very purposeÂ that the corporate Person of Christ and His church, made up of many members, might be brought into being and made known. We are not here to develop a spiritual life of our own, or to enjoy a quiet spiritual retreat. We are here to have the full realization of Jesus Christ, for the purpose of building His body.

Am I building up the body of Christ, or am I only concerned about my own personal development? The essential thing is my personal relationship with Jesus ChristÂ ". . Thatat I may know Him. . ." ( Philippians 3:10 ). To fulfill GodÂs perfect design for me requires my total surrenderÂ complete abandonment of myself to Him. Whenever I only want things for myself, the relationship is distorted. And I will suffer great humiliation once I come to acknowledge and understand that I have not really been concerned about realizing Jesus Christ Himself, but only concerned with knowing what He has done for me.

My goal is God Himself, not joy nor peace, Nor even blessing, but Himself, my God.

Are you measuring your life by this standard or by something less?

Explaining The Paradox

2006-07-06T07:56:00.000-07:00

You're invited this Sunday (July 9) to come meet Paradox and hear about the dreams that we believe God is dreaming and ask; "is He calling me to be a part of the journey".

On this morning you'll hear how God moved in a small team of people one year ago to start forming a new church. You'll also hear from some of the people on the launch team (that we call acts 29) about how and why they felt moved to get involved.

The address is 18250 Church Street Roseville, MI 48066. We'll begin at 10:30 AM.

In addition to this Sunday you're invited to our next two preview services. On July 30th and August 27th we will host our next two public "run through" services. Please feel welcome to attend, get a feel for a Sunday at Paradox and give us your feedback to help us refine our efforts.

Don't forget that our official Launch Day is September 24!

We are currently meeting every Sunday at 10:30 AM. Please feel free to join us any Sunday between now and launch to get a deeper look into the development of Paradox and explore how to join the launch team.

S.O.T.W. 07-01-06

2006-07-01T12:41:00.000-07:00

"He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
and gave me a firm place to stand."

Have you been saved from a bad situation by God? Many people who say they know God have a story about how God saved them from a former lifestyle (the pit, the deep mud). But do you now feel that you stand on a firm foundation? Not everyone who says the met God have found a strong foundation to build their life upon. Do you feel that you have a foundation to stand on? Is your life based upon something bigger than yourself? For me, having a foundation of Jesus has changed everything in my life, and knowing that I have God on my side has no comparison. If you are in a spot in life right now where things are confusing or generally frustrating, ask yourself if you have let God take you out of the pit of sin, and ask yourself if your life is based on a firm foundation instead of the mire.

The 5 Love Languages

2006-06-29T22:23:00.000-07:00

Andy and I read this book a couple of years ago and he recently read it a second time, so we've been talking about it lately. If you're not familiar with the basic premise of the book it pretty much goes like this:

People feel most loved in one of five ways: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Though we have a primary love language, we can learn a second language so that others' needs are met. It's all about giving a little here and there, and accepting that other people may feel or express love differently than we do.

It's been a very valuable thing to know. I've learned how to better love my husband, parents, siblings and friends much more effectively than I used to. Just because my mom feels loved when I help her around the house, the same effort would be lost on my little brother who would just like me to spend time with him or my dad who would feel loved when I complimented him. For Andy it's spending time together and holding his hand, hugging him or even playing footsie during dinner.

I thought I had my love language(s) all figured out (quality time and gifts) but lately I've been realizing how much sincere compliments mean to me. I can remember every single sincere compliment I've ever received. When I'm daydreaming or feeling blue I will even go back and remember some of them. This makes me think that words of affirmation are more important to me than I thought.

What is your love language? Can you think of the most recent time someone used it to show love to you?

Marlena care about you!!! [part 1]

2006-06-28T12:12:00.000-07:00

Hi there, my name is Marlena. I just want you to know that I care about you. Whenever you see this picture you will know that I am right about to "get my care on!" In this first installment I want to know what single event or conversation at Paradox has been most significant to you.

Was it something you saw; something you overheard; a conversation you had; or was it a specific sermon you attended? I want to know. Seriously. Look at my eyes: you will know its true! And maybe other people will be encouraged by your words...I know I will be!

LEGAL NOTICE: Any resemblance to any real persons, at Paradox or otherwise, is entirely coincidental (Ok, not entirely). All words or thoughts expressed herein are solely from Doug Geiger and are for entertainment and edification purposes only. The real Marlena Kerwin may or may not have even known about this post prior to publishing. If there are any issues with the content or impersonation; they should be taken up with David Kerwin, Marlena's husband, and the person from whom Doug received permission to publish the picture and message that appear above. If you are still reading this; stop, and get busy posting a comment or I will have to whip out an "Andrew Krusz is disappointed in you" post!

Click send.

2006-06-26T18:12:00.000-07:00

Craig challenged us to write how we are clicking send in our lives on the blog for a couple reasons: to increase our accountability and to encourage one another. Please use the comments section below to share your commitments and encouragement to others. I found a poem that I think sums up the significance of those "click send" moments in our lives. The poem is about clicking send in good ways and in bad - those split seconds of decision - the razor's edge of life.

The part of the blade that cuts,
the line in the story that makes you cry,
the tip that writes,
the first touch of a kiss,
the impact of a fist,
the word “sorry”,
the second look,
the moment he sighed,
the moment he died,
the second she cried,
the second death itself was denied.

The razors edge of life;
Christ’s jurisdiction,
he gives me the hours,
and asks for the seconds,
that I squeeze the triggers,
throw back the pills,
make eye contact,
forgive,
give
and jump.

Babies and Brownies

2006-06-26T11:29:00.000-07:00

At a recent Paradox service Doug mentioned that there are two things welcomed at all church events...babies and brownies! Andi Gould captured Dougs comment perfectly with this photo!

Congratulations Prainito Family!!

2006-06-23T12:29:00.000-07:00

Becca went in early this morning for her C-section. The baby's lungs were fully developed as of Thursday, so the Dr. decided that they should deliver today since Becca has been so swollen and uncomfortable. It's a Girl!!! She weighed in at 8lbs 9oz and 20 3/4 inches long. She has dark curly hair and her name is Elise Darlene. Becca's mom's name was Darlene and she also had dark curly hair.

Congratulations Ryan, Becca and Jake!!

Stuck in your head

2006-06-23T05:30:00.000-07:00

I ran across a quiz this morning about advertising slogans. It's a short one, about 10 questions, to test how much you remember about jingles from various products and companies. Take it & see how you do!

I did pretty well, missing only a few I hadn't heard much about. (Or maybe it was that I just didn't pay attention to them.) Then it got me thinking... what if I took a different kind of quiz. Say, one of Bible verses. Would I be able to remember them at all? Would I recognize the context of where they came from or the story behind the verse? The Bible clearly says we need to be studying and learning and memorizing the scriptures. I remember as a child my mother used to put up verses on index cards around the house ...at the bottom corner of the bathroom mirror, on the fridge, on her dresser... to help us memorize verses. Repetition, repetition, repetition. And as a parent, I know how important repetition is to learning and remembering. I see how that works for Kirsten, and I know it does for me. Even though I haven't been memorizing new verses for many years now, I still can remember quite a few, and it's neat to see how God brings them to mind during different circumstances of life. That's the reason, I think... so they come to the surface to help when it applies.

I feel the same goes for positive music, Christian music in my case. When I was having surgery on my eyes once, "Lord, You're Beautiful" kept playing in my head, and it was such a comfort. I think it was a nice distraction from the anxiety of the procedure. I can recall several times where songs or verses have come to mind and made me smile or made me remember I didn't really want to make a decision I was contemplating.

Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

So... what do you fill your mind with? What's stuck in your head?

Mary vs. Large Grape

2006-06-22T13:47:00.000-07:00

Mary won. Barely.

Do On Purpose

2006-06-22T11:08:00.000-07:00

I wanted to dovetail off of Doug's last post "Paradox's next 200 years".

What a great post, what a great reminder of the mission given back in Matthew 28, what a great responsibility, what a great possibility, what the heck do you do to find that "replace yourself with" person!?

As you look at the life of Jesus there are a few obvious principals that he demonstrates. In addition, I would like to start a conversation on; how to find this person, where do we look (around at church is the easy answer by the way), what are we looking for, what do we do with them when we find them?

I beleieve that for many of us these people are in our lives already, how will we find them?

Constructive Criticism, this Sunday

2006-06-21T14:00:00.000-07:00

Paradox is hosting three preview services, to give the church more of an idea of how we want our Sunday service to feel once we launch in September. They will not be drastically different from what we are doing now, but most things will be more intentional, done better, and the little stuff will mean something. But why bring this up on the blog? Because we need you critics to help us. We need to know the best way to do this thing they call Church/Mass/Worship service/etc. Sure, we have a good idea of what that is, but some of you have some great imput that we need to be aware of. Some of you may not even like church, but you may be willing to come, observe, and constructively critisize. You're invited! So come one, come all, check it out, grant an opinion or two, and help us build this segment of God's Church. Be there Sunday 06-25-06 10:30am. Map

Paradox's next 200 years

2006-06-21T09:21:00.000-07:00

I remember being in my high school youth group and hearing the youth pastor discuss the idea of replacing ourselves. Its kind of a weird concept. In the business world it can hurt you to do your job so well that you are no longer necessary. When the world entered into the industrial revolution, French workers opposed the forms of progress that cost jobs and threw their shoes into the gears, thereby hoping to slow down progress (look up the etymology of "sabotage"). In modern times many workers have opposed the use of robots and computers that replace human effort. It is a natural and understandable tendency to make ourselves and our knowledge the scarce resources. The difference is: they were trying to keep a job for 20 years - we are builing a 200 year church.
Truth be told, ours is a job that is really a continuation of the work started 2000 years ago and will be continued until the trumpet blasts. I think that it is easy to see that no pastor or church is really breaking any new ground. We are all picking up the reins from those that either dropped them or handed them to us. They may have stopped being the church due to poor choices, handed them to us willingly as part of a planned planting, or tripped in their old age, but in any event we are here to continue the work started by others. Craig will be gone someday - all of us will - will anyone carry on the mission? Will anyone forcefully advance the kingdom in this area in our stead?

The idea of, "replacing" one's self really means choosing to "do on purpose" the thing that will happen anyhow. I will make an assumption here; that everyone reading this has seen how unpredictable life can be. People die. People drop out. People fight, and people quit. Paradox, as a church, does not have those luxuries. Paradox, as an extension of the universal, timeless body of Christ, must forcefully advance the message of the gospel regardless of any given staff change. Think of it like the military - any given general or private can die or get transferred without the mission being comprimised. We are moving in that direction on two fronts. The first front you could call the "architecture"; that is, the way the church's communication and information is set up. This involves developing easy to understand guidelines for doing the most common tasks as well as capturing the information necessary to keep any given ministry on track - even when things are disrupted. The second front is what the greeks and the rhetoricians liked to call the "ethos." Ethos is a fancy word for, "culture." our culture is becoming one where we PLAN for growth, not just ALLOW for it. A culture that shares knowledge. We all are beginning to think, "who else knows how to do this?" and, "is this written down?" The thought is becoming, "I won't be here in 200 years - but because of me, Paradox will."

This is an exciting thing for me to consider: I am merely a tooth in the wheel of the world's most powerful machine: God's will on Earth. Paradoxically, I feel small and powerless by myself - but powerful beyond measure when I am connected to all of you and revolving around Christ, our hub and motive power.

**This posted on behalf of Doug Geiger.

Incredible Book on Marriage

2006-06-16T10:11:00.000-07:00

Right now I'm reading one of the best books on marriage that I have ever read...and I've read a ton of them! (outside of my walk with God, nothing else is as important to me as my marriage, so I know that learning all that I can will be beneficial)

The book is called Love and Respect and can be purchased here. The entire basis of the book is Ephesians chapter 5. Dr. Eggerich's unraveling of that passage is excellent and much needed in our culture today. Most of the marriage books I've read give all kinds of warm and fuzzy techniques for how to improve your marriage and they sprinkle in some Bible verses so they can market to the Christian audience. Love and Respect is no such book. There are practical applications and personal testimonies included so that you can understand how to begin applying the love and respect that God speaks about in Ephesians. My parents are both reading it right now and after 26 years of marriage (19 of those being Christians) they are making more progress in their marriage than I have ever seen before.

If you're married check it out! If you're not, you might be someday so still check it out!

Hats off to the doorknockers and neighbors

2006-06-15T08:24:00.000-07:00

I'd like to thank everyone who gave their time to knocking on doors last Sunday. I can appreciate how that might be an awkward situation, especially because you're asking strangers to give something. It was a hot day, yet some people were there around three hours after church talking to people.

From what I've heard so far, and from my own experience, overall things went well. Rebecca Gould shared about her conversation with a woman who was looking for an opportunity to give back, and Jen Scicluna spent time comforting a woman who has had some difficulty. I talked to a few people who appreciated the gesture toward Elizabeth and the community. I'd love to hear more stories, so if you've got 'em post 'em.

We learned some things as well...like we shouldn't have clipboards and to approach people in groups of 2. We won't know how successful this endevour was in recruiting neighbors until Saturday, but I'm glad we got to talk to people.

Hats off to the neighbors for their patience and listening ear! Hopefully, we'll get to talk more at the Make-over.

Door To Door

2006-06-12T12:20:00.000-07:00

Ok, I have to admit that I was not thrilled about going door to door yesterday handing out flyers about our lawn makeover event next weekend. I didn't think that the neighborhood would respond well and I was apprehensive about being stereotyped like the Jehovah's Witnesses. I even came up with a quirky acronym for Paradox that summed up my feelings on the matter:

People
Annoying
Residents
And
Distributing
Omni
Xeroxes

As is often the case, I complained alot before the actual event, but I ended up coming away from the whole experience feeling excited. If only I could train myself to remember that this happens...it might shorten duration of time spent complaining.

I was paired with Ian Klepac (who I didn't really know before yesterday) and I was very fortunate to work with someone who really "got it" when it came to approaching people. He was very sincere and it was obvious that he believed in what he was promoting but, he was also laid back and very relatable. His approach really went a long way in alleviating the skepticism of our prospects. We figured out a good method of tag teaming which resulted in neither one of us being the mute sidekick. Despite our great tactics, we still encountered cranky elderly folks, distracted housewives and doors that were not answered. Sprinkled throughout those less pleasant homes were some really nice people. Overall, I was surprised that people weren't as turned off as I might have expected.

The best story came toward the end...Ian switched teams and Dave Kerwin joined up with me. Dave and I came to the door of a friendly middle aged woman wearing a bright purple t-shirt that read, "Cancer Sucks!" We let her know what we were up to and she shared a cool story with us. Apparently her daughter in law recently died of cancer. The woman had been at a bowling fundraiser the night before and was really touched by all the people who had supported her and her family. She had just been thinking that she really needed to start giving back. And then, with tears in her eyes, she said, "And here you are today. I'll be there and I'm going to call people to come with me."

Dave and I were blown away. It was obvious that God placed us on that street, on that block, at that house, on that day for that woman.

I've learned that I need to stop whining so much and start getting excited about the situations God might place me in even when I don't think I want to be involved.

The women getting their praise on

2006-06-09T13:01:00.000-07:00

I took this two weeks ago from the back of the room. Just thought I would share...

Scripture Of The Week 06-06-06

2006-06-06T10:08:00.000-07:00

S.O.T.W. 06-06-06 (take that satan, bible on your birthday! haha)

Hebrews 11:6
"And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."

whole chapter

When you ask God for something, have you considered first whether or not you believe in him? If not, what stops you?
And if you do believe in him, do you truely believe that he will answer your prayer?

What is the role of the church in this scenario?

2006-05-31T12:23:00.000-07:00

http://cbs11tv.com/local/local_story_145230233.html
http://www.religionnewsblog.com/14799
http://www.thestate.com/mld/thestate/news/nation/14689867.htm

I completely understand the idea of following Biblical guidelines, but do you think it was justified to notify people after this couple left the church? To me it seems like it was settled almost, but it seems like a fine line. I don't think the scriptures say what to do if the offender has left. Have you seen anything? What do you think of this scenario? Put your thoughts in by leaving a comment.

Shout Out to Big D!!

2006-05-31T08:25:00.000-07:00

I just wanted to post a BIG thank you to Doug Geiger for all his hard work getting Paradox into the 21st century and online! The blog, wiki, flickr and google calendars are going to be such an asset to our growing body at Paradox!

Thanks Doug!!

"Why do you call it Paradox"?

2006-05-30T13:15:00.000-07:00

This is probably one of the most asked questions I get about our church on a regular basis. Arresting attention, provoking new thought, forcefully advancing (forcefully advancing was just added for anyone that doesn't know); that's our mission statement and our name alone has time after time done just that.

The questions that I am most excited to begin answering are the questions about the people that ARE Paradox. Questions like, "why would they give so much time to a church"? "How can they give so much money away when they don't make that much"? "Why are they helping out that family that doesn't even go to their church"? "Why would you loan me your bike when you don't know me"? "Why are you helping me with my rent I only just started coming"?

Paradox is and will only ever be US: you, me & how we live out the love of Jesus. I hope Paradox will only continue to raise questions in people's mind. The day people stop asking questions about us will most likely be the day we've stop living out our mission. Are we the flesh, blood & skin of the Paradox dream, raising questions in the minds and mouths of those watching us or are we just one more unnoticed, unneeded religious gathering.

Well, we have a life time to LIVE Paradox but only one more time in pre-launch to tell about Paradox. This Sunday is our last "what's Paradox" morning. Several of the recent additions to the Paradox team began their journey with us by attending one of our "what's Paradox" gatherings so no holds bared this week; "you have not because you ask not". Let's ask God to continue to grow our team and to do it in part through bringing people this next Sunday and let's make sure to do our part by inviting our friends to come.

Paradox, I'm proud of you and proud to be one of you. Let's pray together this week that the "Lord of the harvest will send workers into the fields"

Remember, Wednesday is our day of fasting together; our stomachs will growl as one!

Which toe are you?

2006-05-24T12:35:00.000-07:00

My sister's boyfriend posed an interesting observation and question on his blog that I would like to forward along to you folks. Here is what he said,

"On both of my feet, the smaller toes curve towards each other, leaving the big toe pointing straight. The four clustered toes look like a group of people huddled together, excluding the oafish big toe. But for all his girth and lack of grace, it is he, the big toe, who can roam. The other four move as a unit. They must all go in the same direction. They are incapable of free motion.
So what about you?
Would you rather be the big toe? Strong, independent, lonely, calloused.
Or would you prefer to be part of the cluster? Involved, secure, belonging.

Think outside the socks."

So which is it?

The Silence Challenge

2006-05-24T12:23:00.000-07:00

Please forgive the amateur photo retouching...
I do not have Adobe Photoshop,
so I resort to using Microsoft Paint!

In our Paradox small groups we have been watching the Nooma videos that were developed by Rob Bell at Mars Hill Church in Grand Rapids. A few weeks ago we watched a video entitled "Noise." Andy was with Craig and Paul at a church planter's conference in Orlando that week, so I was going to facilitate our small group discussion. The day before our small group meeting I planted myself in front of the TV to take a look at this video about noise. I was very convicted...

Some of you may have already watched this video in your group. If you haven't, I don't want to spoil it for you, so I won't divulge too much.

Rob starts out narrating the video as he traditionally does, but then he fades out and the screen goes black. It is completely silent. Statement after statement is flashed across the screen. There are statistics about the amount of noise we are exposed to every day, questions about our individual choices of noise, scripture verses and challenges.

Have you ever thought about the amount of sound you take in during a single day? Whether it be noisy children, radio programs, MP3s, TV shows, worship CDs, christian radio programs, traffic, sirens, cars, trucks, complaining, swearing, worrying, gossip, cell phones, etc.

How often do we long to hear God's voice?!? We pray and we pray. We get frustrated and wish He would just "write it on the wall" so that we would know what to do. Is it possible that we can't hear Him because we are so bombarded by other noise...urgent yet unimportant noise. Perhaps just like Elijah we are looking for God's voice in the "wind", the "earthquake" or the "fire" but it is actually in the gentle whisper.

(1 Kings 19:11-12 NIV) "The LORD said, "Go out and stand on the mountain in the presence of the LORD, for the LORD is about to pass by." Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the LORD, but the LORD was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the LORD was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the LORD was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper."

I'm going to take the Silence Challenge. I'm going to commit to turning off the noise in my life for 3 days. No radio, no TV, no CDs or DVDs (except for tonight's Nooma video in small group!). I have some big things I'm praying about right now. I want to see if the silence will open me up to hearing the voice of my King.

Wiki Update-Small group notes and discussion

2006-05-24T11:45:00.000-07:00

Our Tuesday small group had such an awesome discussion, I decided to take notes during the meeting and post them on the Wiki. This could be a great opportunity for different small groups to share questions and discussion points, as well as allow people to participate in small groups they don't attend. This also might be a great resource for churches who decide to use the Nooma videos in their small groups.

Please visit my small group page as well as the Prainito's small group page. You can download my meeting notes in MSWord format.

Scripture Of The Week 05-24-06

2006-05-24T07:08:00.000-07:00

S.O.T.W. is Jonah 2:2a
whole chapter

"..In my distress I called to the LORD, and he answered me.."

I think most of us know that when we are in times of trouble, that we can approach the Lord for his help. Shoot, even those who do not know God will seek him out when faced with the challenges of this life. Is it just me, or does it seem to happen that after we know Jesus, sometimes we never take him up on his offers? Friend, are you distressed today? Are you burdened by something? Go to the Lord, he will hear you and be a help in time of need. Seriously, call on him!

Anything you forgot to say?

2006-05-23T10:47:00.000-07:00

Some people are nervous to speak in front of other people. I can't specifically relate to this. :) Well, the wiki is a good way for you to share your thoughts without everyone lookig at you and noticing if you buttoned your shirt wrong (or whatever it is you are afraid of).

This last Sunday we discussed the experiences we had visiting the other churches and places of worship. There was a pretty good list made of your thoughts; but I have a sneaking suspicion that there were some observations that were not said outloud due to time constraints or what have you. Have no fear: the problem is solved!

If you visit the wiki and select "ministry" then "Act29" then "acts29 discussion; you will see the notes that were taken by Paul. Please add to that list in the area provided below, so that we can all glean the most from our experiences. The direct link is here. if you need the password to edit the wiki email me.

Wiki update - Paradox prayers go live!

2006-05-23T10:27:00.000-07:00

Sometimes when it comes time to pray I find it hard to remember the things I have heard throughout the week that I wanted to pray for. That got me thinking: Wouldn't it be cool to have all of the different prayer requests in one area from the whole church?

The prayer book is not just for requests. It is for anything we would talk with God about. Praises. Requests. Thanksgiving. Confession. Please feel free to add to this page so that others may pray for you. When you do add to the list add to the top so that he newest items are on top.

The format will look like this:

* (Date) - Type: explanation (initials) (updates in parenthesis if applicable)

If you would like to see what it looks like go there today! This can be an awesome aid to us caring for one another if we all use it! If you need the password for editing email me.

Last minute mowing

2006-05-22T09:04:00.000-07:00

I wanted to thank Joe Kenyon and John Hutchinson for helping to mow Elizabeth's lawn on short notice yesterday. Todd Bragg also let us use one of his lawn mowers. Thanks Todd.

For those of you who don't know, we're going to Make-over Elizabeth's landscaping June 17th. Paradox is going to redo her gardens and hopefully get her some lawn equipment. Her lawn mower broke-down about three weeks ago, and her grass in the backyard was about a foot tall.

Great job gentlemen!

In community or enchilada?

2006-05-18T14:41:00.000-07:00

Occasionally I find someone that can say within a few brief sentences those things that I have felt over the span of years, in dark nights, in the furious loneliness of a group I don't quite fit in, in the passive resignation of growing jaded. Krista, an author from a blog I frequent regularly, describes the pangs of desire for "true community," beautifully in this exerpt from a longer post:

"I have been incredibly discouraged lately as I have been searching for a church and craving community and stimulating interaction with other believers. I want more than just the surface relationships that come easily through church potlucks and Sunday School classes. I want people in my life who push me and challenge me and sharpen me and change me. I want to engage in conversations where my mind is moving so fast that I can't even get the words out to convey what I'm thinking. I want to come home from somewhere and stay up late writing about a discussion I had with someone. I want to walk out of a church service refreshed and reminded of my mission. Instead I walk out bored and hungry and ready to drive to the Mexican restaurant for lunch."

I feel as though she frames Paradox's values of connection and solitude so succinctly that it could very well stand as the type of person we hope to become and hope to attract. One of the value couplets that we have is outlined in our Mission/Vision/Values, "Connection is the value that we have all been created to exist within the family of God, living a part in the family and story of God that is larger than our individual life. We exist to build each other up in Christ being a part of His redemptive work in each other’s lives. Solitude is the value that we have been created to have a personal one on one relationship with God, which is the place where we find the strength and wisdom to handle whatever He brings to the road of our journey with Him."

Apart from us all saying that we believe in this value; how can we take courageous steps towards sharing our stories and the fire in our bellies with one another, so that we can compete with Don Pablo's? Will we choose to be in community or enchilada? Krista is us and Krista is who we are hoping hears about us; but how will we ensure that Krista will know she is home when she finds us?

(thanks Krista if you end up reading this!)

Me - in all my artsy glory

2006-05-18T09:50:00.000-07:00

I have never been a super artsy person. I like art, and I can even draw a little, but that deep down, I-don't-shave-my-legs bohemian artist aura has never fit me. (As a side note I don't shave my legs - but I don't shave them because, well, I just don't - not because I decided not to to make a statement - You know what I mean!). With that said, I do like to take pictures from time to time.

I took this one when I used to be a bus person. I was a bus person for about a year because of money issues (all better now) and one of the cool things about the bus was all of the time you got to look around and think about things. I carried a camera I got for Christmas one year and just would snap away at anything that interested me. I think that black and white photos almost always have more soul - or at least they can fake their soul better than full-color shots. Anyhow I just wanted to see if there were any other poseur-hairy-legged-(or not)-fake-soul bruthas and sistas that would want to contribute their pics (soul optional) to the Paradox pics...Its like a scrapbook for the church! The tutorial is here, and the pictures we have so far are here.

So what's the big deal about personalities anyway??

2006-05-18T08:43:00.000-07:00

The Acts 29 core team at Paradox spent some time a few months ago taking a spiritual gifts test and a DISC personality profile. We believe that knowing our gifts and personalities will allow us to better understand the ministry areas we would be most effective in and also how to relate to the other personality types within our ministry and the church as a whole. The DISC profile breaks the world's population into 4 basic personality types:

Dominance
Iinfluence
Steadiness
Conscientious

Each of those words conjures up some idea in our minds of the behavior of each of the personality types. The profile booklet even gives short blurbs about each personality and the combination personalities that most people exhibit. It briefly outlines who works best with whom, strengths and weaknesses of each and how each personality is perceived. Sounds simple enough....so why aren't we putting it into practice?? If you're like me, you discovered your unique personality (DC in my case) and you read each blurb, nodded silently in agreement with the things you read, and maybe even "diagnosed" your spouse, children or closest friends. AND THAT'S WHERE IT ALL ENDED.

About 3 years ago I was introduced to a book entitled Personality Plus by Florence Littauer.

You can purchase it here. I had already taken the DISC profile in high school as part of my student ministry team training. I had even thought about my personality in the context of my relationships. (at the time I thought I was an ID...boy did that cause an identity crisis!) Anyway, Personality Plus was recommended to me and I decided to read it. I WAS AMAZED!! The whole "personality thing" suddenly seemed so relevant and practical. I began wondering where this book had been my whole life. It seemed like it should have been mandatory reading for all humans!

Shortly after finishing the book, Andy and I were out to dinner in Royal Oak and found ourselves finally understanding things about each other. Things that had caused so much frustration or confusion now all made sense in the context of our personalities. We laughed about the time Andy bragged to me that (after being home all day) he beat Final Fantasy and cleaned the bathroom! All the while I was thinking he was lazy because, had I been home all day, I could have cleaned the whole house, reorganized every closet and alphabetized the DVD collection before lunch! After reading the book, I started giving him the benefit of the doubt in situations. He might not take the garbage out as soon as it gets full, but he'll be the fun-loving parent who builds forts in the living room. He might not get as excited as I do about things, but he'll be the voice of reason when I'm having a meltdown. It all made so much more sense.

I think Personality Plus is such a valuable resource because it doesn't just outline what you are and how you usually behave, but it paints pictures of each personality. Littauer guides you to a better understanding of why the personalities are relevant by including stories and scenarios of the various types in real life situations. A test is included in the beginning of the book, but I would argue that just by reading each chapter you will know which personality(ies) you are.

Personality Plus uses different terminology than the DISC profile, but the basic temperaments are the same. Here's how they compare:

Dominance = Powerful Choleric
Influence = Popular Sanguine
Steadiness = Perfect Melancholy
Conscientious = Peaceful Phlegmatic

I personally find that I can identify more with a word than a letter, so I was thrilled to learn that I am a Choleric Melancholy. Andy is a Sanguine Phlegmatic and I find that it's really great to represent all 4 as a couple. It can be trying at times, but I've learned so much from him and realize how much he evens me out! (and vice versa) My mom is a Melancholy Phlegmatic and recently admitted that her attention to detail and getting things done right even if it takes longer, caused her to hold grudges when people wouldn't follow through on things they offered to do. Now that she understands the personalities from reading the book, she has come to realize that in most cases the person was a Sanguine and that's just their nature. She loves Sanguines because of their energy and enthusiasm and she now sees that being forgetful comes along with the package...they weren't trying to let her down...they just forgot!

As a church seeking to live in harmony and honest relationships with one another, and seeking to reach out to lost people, I think the "personality thing" is a bigger deal than we ever realized.

Any questions?? Thoughts?? Have you read it??

A call to prayer

2006-05-18T05:33:00.000-07:00

Folks,
I found this on the blog of a friend of mine from Grace; regarding other friends of mine, Steve and Lori. This was posted last night at 9:30pm. I would like it if you could pray for them (this is courtesy Carrie):

Please pray for my friends Steve and Lori. Steve's family lives in Edmunton, Alberta and this afternoon he got a call from his mom that his younger brother had been in a very serious car accident and that after using the jaws of life, he was air lifted to the big hospital 5 hours away. His parents were three hours away from the hospital and Steve is here. His brother has a broken neck and at this point has feeling in his arms but not his legs.

A generous man in our church arranged to meet Steve at the airport (with a client he was meeting with who said he would accompany him because "this kid needs our help") and gave him frequent flyer miles to cover the ticket.
Steve is on his way but Lori couldn't go because her dad is in the military and is leaving soon to go overseas and she is flying to Oregon to say goodbye.
Please pray...for God's healing, for His peace and love to be felt...

If you'd care to share a quick prayer in the comments, feel free.

Scripture Of The Week 05-17-06

2006-05-17T11:56:00.000-07:00

S.O.T.W.

Ephesians 4: 26-27

"In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while
you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."

Is God saying that it is wrong to be angry?
How should a person rightfully handle their anger?
Has anyone sinned while angry and can remember how it gave the devil a foothold into their life?

(** to answer these questions, click the comments link and post your reply. By the way, do you know that you can both read comments and leave your own?)

Christian mama joke

2006-05-16T08:40:00.000-07:00

Yo momma's so fat she got baptized at Sea World!

The first miracle

2006-05-16T07:58:00.000-07:00

It's interesting that Jesus' first miracle is turning water that was used for ceremonial cleaning into wine. It's consistent with Jesus saying throw out all the ritual stuffiness for true enjoyment and real life.

Thanks PBWiki! (they gave us a free upgrade)

2006-05-12T15:29:00.000-07:00

I emailed the company we are using for our wiki and asked them for a free upgrade; here's what I said:

To whom it may concern,

I wanted to let you know that Paradox church, in Detroit MI., is using your service with great success to house all of our documentation and as an area of collaboration for the various ministries within our church. Paradox is a start-up church (501c3) with about 100 members and growing. Each of the ministry leaders will be using our site http://paradoxchurch.pbwiki.com on a daily basis.

Would you please sponsor an upgrade for the site? In exchange, we would gladly write a blurb on the mainpage encouraging our congregants (most of whom are in their 20's to 40's) to use the service on their own, likely resulting in more money in subscriptions for you down the road, and definately resulting in a great deal of exposure to the hundreds that will be visiting the site over the next few years.

In either event, thank you for putting out such a fine product; and please know that you are playing a vital role in helping us help the surrounding area through helping us organize both religious and service oriented activities.

Sincerely,
Doug Geiger
web team member, wiki author

Here's how they responded:

Dear Doug,

Thanks for letting us know how much you appreciate our service. We at PBwiki are very pleased to find out that our product has helped successfully connect you and your congregation!

We are willing to sponsor a Silver account for your wiki, http://paradoxchurch.pbwiki.com. ***

We hope that this will be able to help you and your congregation even more. Please do contact us to confirm your wiki's upgrade, so we can work on it as soon as possible.

Thank you very much for your heart-warming words for us and PBwiki. We really, truly appreciate your firm support, as it encourages us to work hard and make PBwiki the best it can be for all our valued customers, like you.

In behalf of the PBwiki team, I wish you the best!

Very sincerely,
abernaith
PBwiki Support

***I removed some technical mumbo-jumbo from the email before posting here.

It should be very encouraging that a company outside Paradox, that will never meet us, believes in us this much! Wouldn't it be cool to have a couple of people drop them a line to thank them? If you want to, they can be reached here.

How to access Paradox's link (Para-links)

2006-05-12T13:46:00.000-07:00

Hello everybody, first let me say that it is very exciting to see the amount of buzz this blog is getting even prior to its launch! In that way, it is very similar to Paradox itself. Please be sure to spread the word about the blog to friends that you know that go to Paradox (and even those that don't) now that we have plenty of content to keep everyone interested in the site.

As many of you know, one of my passions is communication. I love creating tools that allow people to have access to information that can really help them. At Paradox, we really like to foster the idea of sharing and contributing to our collective growth as people, and we do that through a number of means. One of the less conventional means is through sharing our bookmarks online. I created an account at a service called del.icio.us that allows us to all view websites that Paradox is saving for reference. You will see a link to our page on the right side of this blog in the side bar, or you can click here.

To assist everyone with understanding how to use the account, please check out this two minute video I made here. I have it stored on the wiki here.

Book Review

2006-05-11T22:14:00.000-07:00

I read this book, in its entirety, on January 29th. It is one of those books that (for me) contained a unique, life-changing perspective. I felt as though my mind was a parachute being blown open to gigantic proportions! It continues to influence the way I view church, other people and the world. Donald Miller's approach to Christianity is funny, relevant and heartfelt.

Here is a link to chapter one. I was intrigued by the first chapter, but it definitely isn't going to fully represent the value of the rest of the book. I recommend this book to everyone...it may ruffle some right wing, republican feathers (it ruffled mine!) but perhaps we need some good feather ruffling from time to time to keep us challenged and growing.

Buy it!

Read it!

What would Jesus direct?

2006-05-11T07:15:00.000-07:00

"Reuters has an interesting piece up on a panel at the Tribeca Film Festival called "What Would Jesus Direct?" The gist of the piece is that Hollywood has long ignored the large Christian market, which The Passion of the Christ tapped into to the tune of some $370 million in the United States...Christians have been demanding family-friendly fare out of Hollywood for a long while. Make the right kind of faith-based films, and you could get a lot of faithful butts filling seats and munching popcorn. Where Hollywood needs to be careful is in assuming that "faith" equals "Conservative Christian", or even Christian at all. The crossover appeal of a film like Narnia, for example, is that the religious undertone is so completely understated, and that the fantasy and adventure are at the forefront. My kids dig the Narnia books (and this movie) even though our family is decidedly more "spiritual" than Christian. Films like Narnia appeal to folks on multiple spiritual paths because they aren't too preachy, and they can be interpreted in different ways depending on your family's faith."" [Original here]

This article is written by someone that is presumably is not a believer; and from the outside is speculating on what type of religious based movies should be made. [Hat tip: Ruth Gross]. It does a good job of painting the backdrop for the argument, but comes to no firm conclusions.

Ben Franklin once said, "So many men, so many minds." This is especially true of the church. When it comes to what types of movies we would like Hollywood to produce (if any); I have heard a few different points of view - and actually they all have some good logic backing them up. Some people feel like, as Christians, we should completely abstain from the entertainment and, in so doing not even know about "what is out there." Others see the silver screen as a way to share the gospel (or at least get people thinking spiritually) with people that would not otherwise hear anything.

Maybe its a cop-out, but I look to the words of another famous statesman from the past as my guide, "It matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle, stand like a rock." - Thomas Jefferson. What do you folks think?

Who has this much free time

2006-05-09T18:58:00.000-07:00

Just in case you ever wondered what the stories in the Bible would look like if acted out with legos; click the link below to find out.

The bible like you've never seen it before!

John's Experience

2006-05-09T13:13:00.000-07:00

Here's an email that John Hutchinson sent me after going to a different place than Paradox this last Sunday. I thought it was worth sharing.

Craig,

Wow, what an eye opener. First time I have been to a non- Christian church in a very long time. We went to the Church of Today on 11 mile in Warren. We have heard people talk about it in the past, and thought it would be interesting as part of the experiment.

Here are a few observations:

BIG building, not a lot of signage telling you where to go. However all of the greeters had on name tags and were very friendly / helpful when approached.
We eventually found our way into the children's area, and signed Sarah and John John in. Once we identified our selves as first timers, the team were helpful and friendly. There was no security desk in the children's area, and we walked right in. John Johns room gave the parents a pager for use if the child needed the parent. Sarah's did not.
Afterward, we went to the sanctuary. We talked to a couple of people who were sitting around us, and once we told we were 1st timers, they were very accommodating. They told us that the R&B performer Kem had a concert there Friday night.
Interesting thing.. Early in the service after the 1st song, that asked for all 1st time visitors to stand up, and they gave us a visitor packet with info on the church, discount for bookstore, and literature on "what is unity?" There was also a red ribbon to wear that would let others know that you were new, and looking at the church.
Service itself was all over the map spiritually. They talked about: Father God / Mother God, They had a form of meditation, the said the Lord's Prayer, Referenced the old testament, as well as transcendentalism, and explained the meaning of "OM" and listing to calm in your mind. They also referenced the "gospel of Phillip". The music felt like R&B, all songs heavy on bass, drums, and keyboards, gospel style singing. Not really my cup of tea, but many in crowd seemed to like. Very diverse attenders.
They pride them selves on a very non-judgemental God, and this certainly seems to attract people. Apparently even have a LGBT Rainbow Unity group there.
When we picked up children, Sarah was not happy about the experience, and said that it was "boring". She also said that they spent some time in a "friendship circle" I don't think she heard any big God message. John John got to look at a small turtle, and his craft was a small turtle. He could not really explain what the turtle meant in a God way. The staff were very complimentary of the kids, especially John John. They even asked if we have taken him to a church before, because he was good in a Sunday school setting.

The takeaways for me are:
Be open and friendly.
Maybe our core team should wear name tags on launch so people can identify who to talk to?
A welcome packet was a good idea, although a less public way of getting info out would work better in my opinion. Kinda made us feel self conscious to stand up in front of everyone as a 1st timer. I thought the info packet for acts 29 was great, so I think we are there basically.
Probably the biggest selling point for this (or any) group or church is the warmth and friendliness that a new person feels when they come into the environment.

Hope this helps. Again, great exercise into what it will feel like for our visitors. (And yes, it was hard to sign in kids and leave them in a different environment)

Our Samaritans

2006-05-09T12:48:00.000-07:00

I just started this book called Radical Reformission by marc driscol. He's a lunatic pastor in seattle who drinks beer, swears, and who's big into theology. Anyway, his first chapter is about the samaritan woman at the well in John 4.

The Jews and the Samaritans basically despised one another and there was a cultural divide. Jesus broke through the traditional separations between himself and the woman that were created in the following ways: she was a woman and he was a man, she was a Samaritan and he was a Jew, he was a high-profile teacher and she was a prostitute. Jesus accepted this woman and yet called out her sin- which was long a source her great pain. She had been married multiple times and continued in prostitution. This lifestyle probably messed with her sense of well-being. Jesus offers her water that would eternally quench her thirst and alleviate her pain. The woman, after receiving Jesus' offer, goes and tells the whole town that Jesus is the Messiah. She then becomes a missionary.

It's interesting that in the book of John, this is the only time Jesus claims He is the savior. He doesn't do this in front of important religious leaders or in front of a huge crowd, he shares this message with a solitary prostitute. Because Jesus spoke his message of eternal life to the Samaritan woman, it begs the question who are our Samaritans? Where are our wells and pagan temples where today's Samaritans hang out?

What barriers do we need to cross to connect with the Samaritans in our culture? What changes might take place in the lives of the “Samaritans” in our town and area if they're given the gospel message?

Did you visit another church on Sunday?

2006-05-08T18:57:00.000-07:00

As a church, we were given an assignment to visit churches of different beliefs, that we might gain a better perspective on inviting others into unknown territory. It was a great assignment!

I went to a jehovah's witnesses hall, and I met some very friendly people! Some were almost too friendly, but I felt very welcomed, even after disclosing that I was not a part of their organization. It was cool to check them out and see what they do. I learned a lot about their emphasis on the watchtower magazine, and I personally want to apply some more effective techniques at being welcoming at Paradox.

So did you participate? If so, where did you go? Did you learn anything? Leave a comment :)

Men's ministry updates

2006-05-08T18:23:00.000-07:00

1. Our next event is a men's breakfast on May 20th at 9:00am at the Paryaski's house in Southfield. We will honor the new Dads in our church and have some good food and fellowship.

2. Good book besides THE good book: Silence of Adam by Dr. Larry Crab. The men's group will be based laregly upon the teachings in this book, so if you are a reader, and even if you are not, get a copy, it is great stuff!

3. Naming the ministry: we have about five names we are considering. So MEN, come on the 20th to have your voice heard!!

Bathruminations

2006-05-08T13:45:00.000-07:00

I am house sitting right now for a couple friends of mine. I currently live with a roommate/landlord, and so I look forward to having a house to myself - even if just for a week. I had an, "aha" moment when I was using the bathroom. For me anyway, bathrooms are always ripe for inspiration.

I had walked into their bathroom - alone in the house, mind you - and shut the door. I happened to notice that I had shut (and locked) the door behind me. I thought for a few minutes about the fact that I had shut the door; and that I had done so, not because it actually made sense to do so, but precisely because of it being a habit.

That thought morphed into other thoughts about other self-protective habits I might have. My experiences with churches, and with people in general have probably caused me to close some doors in my life that don't make sense. As a result I have to remind myself sometimes that it is OK to get excited about things, its OK to let others in, and that its a good practice to trust people that are trust-worthy. I have to remind myself that life is messy and can really stink sometimes; but that open doors and true community can really help clear the air. Any thoughts?

Para-wiki is launched!

2006-05-06T16:34:00.000-07:00

If you have not checked out Para-wiki, please be sure to do so! On it you will find information about the ministries at Paradox, maps, a calendar, FAQ's, and...give yourself a few minutes to browse and be sure to bookmark the site...this is where we will be posting information and gathering together to plan activities.

This is a great tool for those that are not even Christian's or that are not yet members of Paradox...the FAQ section will probably put a lot of minds to rest. If you have an area you could expound upon, let me know and I will give you the password to edit the wiki.

Thanks,
Doug

Mr.T duck metaphor contest

2006-05-06T10:06:00.000-07:00

I cannot think of one single redeeming reason for having a picture of a Mr.T duck on this blog; and yet when I saw it I knew it had to go up. I have an idea for a mini-contest...can anyone think of a metaphor for this image that can give it some meaning after the fact?

I am thinking something like, "The Mr.T represents (blah blah blah) and the bouyancy of the duck represents (yada yada yada)..." The winner gets...uhh...tell you what, if there even is a winner, I'll get Craig to spring for a free small coffee at a local dive. (est. cash value: $1.25 + .20 tip = $1.45)

Tutorial: How to upload to Flickr

2006-05-05T13:17:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone, after Dave commented that it was difficult to use the Flickr tool, I made a little video tutorial to help everyone out. The video is located on the Wiki. To get to the page you would go to the main site, then go to "general," then, "tutorials," then select the Flickr tutorial. You can also click here to go straight there.

The video is about 10 minutes long, and is no hollywood production, but I think it will help you out a lot if you are new to flickr! Please view it in its entirety and contribute...if you still have questions email me.

Paradox Pictures!

2006-05-04T13:59:00.000-07:00

Are you a photographer? I'm not. This is the only artsy-farty photo I have ever taken. I held the leaf up between my camera and the sun and pushed the button. I got lucky. I like this picture because it makes me look like I care about environmental issues, or that somewhere deep down in my heart of hearts I am an sensitive artist yearning to be set free through the art of photography. Neither is really true I don't think.

I thought about titling this post, "photo tithing." Something along the lines of claiming that 10% of your photos you should donate to Paradox. But that's just silly. And far be it from me to be silly. At any rate, I created a Flickr named "Paradox Church" - you can get to it here. If you would like to be added to the group you will have to join Flickr (it requires you get a yahoo ID) and then send me an email. I will then send you an invite. Then you give 'til it hurts. :)

Sunday team - refreshingly bold

2006-05-04T13:26:00.000-07:00

To me there is something appealing about a team that is not afraid to get right to the point, keep it simple and stick to their guns. Its refreshing. Its bold. Its rugged-individualist, American unpretentiousness. It could be the name for the next big energy drink - "the Sunday Team - 200 milligrams of pure caffeine per 8 oz. serving"

"So, what's the fancy name for your ministry?"
"Um, we are just called, 'the Sunday team,' what's wrong with that?"
"Nothing I guess...its just that there's Journey, and OMNI, and that one that's named after a verse; I just figured you guys would have come up with a fancy moniker name by now"
"Nope, we are, 'the Sunday team,' and proud of it"

I sat in on my first Paradox meeting last night, and was very impressed by the commitment and the creativity held in that room. There were about a dozen of us drinking coffee, sucking down cheese-its, and painting murals with our minds. In this particular meeting we covered the framework for the next couple months programming. I can't wait to see some of these ideas come to fruition. Plus Craig is just a genius with a white board! When he gets excited the bar that he crosses his "t"s with gets really long. It goes from about 2 inches to about 6. I think judging by the stuff we came up with, and by what the what the other Paradox teams are also planning; Craig will have lots of long top bars for his "t"s in the future!

What exciting things are happening in your ministry right now?

Stepping Into The Present

2006-05-03T12:05:00.000-07:00

"We must leave the past, engage the present and create the future"
-- Erwin McManus

Well, I never thought I would become a blogger but here I am! Actually, it would be both foolish and irresponsible to fail to harness the power of the internet for Kingdom Purpose, so here we go. For the most part the internet has served me as a source of information but for a growing many it is has become a community, a place of connection and even a place of self discovery as lives are more than read but shared.

It's time for us to join this community. Like any new relationship you'll probably approach this one being slightly guarded but give it a chance and let's see where it takes us. If it's true that our lives are a story being written by the author of life then it's also true that our stories are ultimately a part of a much larger story. I'm excited to see all that Paradox is doing with the web to unveil our stories, entangle our lives and advance the Kingdom.

Come back often to comment to share to learn & to connect.

Click here to read a short article on a few reasons why churches should blog

So who's this Doug guy anyhow?

2006-05-03T09:00:00.000-07:00

My name is Doug Geiger. Let me tell you a little of my history with Paradox and with Craig. I have known Craig for about a dozen years now. We both went to Grace Community Church, back in the day, and have worked together in a couple of different ministries.

For a while he was the Jr. High youth pastor and I was the lowly small group leader, and I didn't like him too much. But as we got older and I moved on from the Jr. High group to leading the College ministry I still didn't like him too much. After several years of not liking him too much I decided that I should probably figure out if it still made sense. We started to meet together on a more regular basis and I realized that he and I had both changed a lot over the years and he was a good guy, and shared my vision for what church could be. He was a man I could follow.

Around this time we started talking about what a ministry (or church) would look like for people our age. As notes on napkins turned into power point slides and business plans we both realized that we were no longer talking about a small change from what was around us at the time; but were instead talking about a new church. It wasn't the smoothest of transitions from Grace to Paradox, and after some difficult situations, and some painful politics, I elected to step back for a while and let Paradox grow without me for a season, fearing that I might be too burnt-out for such a delicate new venture. I have always believed in the values of Paradox and in the leadership of Craig, and look forward to helping wherever I should this summer.

I am going to be spending time with the Sunday team as well as working on the upkeep of this blog and some other online social tools to help Paradox reflect its values and vision to a wider audience and to promote community all week long. If you have any questions for me please feel free to email me.

The real story of Logan's birth

2006-04-29T07:04:00.000-07:00

It is not everyday that a man will bear the burden of childbirth. As a matter of fact, it has never been done until just recently. Todd does not like everyone to know this, but he actually had a womb implant and raised little Logan in his belly. You may be thinking that you saw Ellen all pregnant, well, that was a hoax, she was wearing one of those sympathy pouches that they make men try on to feel what its like to house a baby. So this post is dedicated to you Todd, a real man who labored through the pain!

Why a blog?

2006-04-20T13:06:00.000-07:00

Before I answer that, let me explain what a blog is. There is a good chance someone at church gave you this address (also called a URL) and said, "you really NEED to check out this site often." People that are into technology always seem to feel that what they have to show you is absolutely neccesary for you to know - as though if you never learned it, life as we know it will come crashing down around us! Here's why they felt it was so important; and here's what a blog is:

A blog stands for Web Log. After a while, it got shortened to "blog" because tech people are lazy!
One cool thing about blogs is that the newest information is always "on top;" this means as soon as you go to the site you can see everything straight away instead of having to hunt around for the latest info.
Another cool thing is the ability to "comment" on what you read. If you wanted to write a couple thoughts on what you thought of this article (called a "post" by bloggers...) you would just click the word "comment" at the bottom and write your message and then click, "submit"
Because its online, we can give one another links to cool or helpful sites really easily; as opposed to a piece of paper that can get lost.
We can use all of these elements together to have an online community where we discuss things throughout the week!

Stay tuned - we will try to update several times a week!

PS: do you want to write for Para-blog? Drop Craig, Paul or Doug a line!
PPS: I included links to definitions of some of the geeky terms I used!

-Doug Geiger